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Coping with separation during the festive season

Christmas is a time set aside for celebrations: when we all spend more time with our family and friends. It’s also a peak break-up time for couples.

Christmas is a time set aside for celebrations: when we all spend more time with our family and friends.

Conversely, and perhaps unsurprisingly, it’s also a peak break-up time for couples.

Whether it’s because of feeling under more stress; taking time for reflection going into the new year; or just feeling the pressure that everyone should be happy at Christmas, the period over December and January is a common time for couples to split.

Of course, break-ups are difficult at any time.

Regardless of when you make the decision, emotions will likely run high, and many people naturally worry about what the future holds.

But there are ways to work through the difficulties of separation and divorce constructively, and still reach the best outcome for you and your family.

What about the kids?

Children will always be a main consideration for any separating couple, but the best way to proceed is to keep them out of it.

At an early stage, they don’t need to know that their parents are making arrangements to separate.

If it’s possible, try to continue as normal at the start, this is also likely to help minimise any future arguments about contact.

Do I really need to keep speaking to him/her?

Usually, yes.

Communication during separation can be important. Regardless of your reasons for splitting up you may need to speak to your spouse or partner.

This can make the process easier and should cut down on lengthy legal correspondence.

However, there are circumstances when that simply doesn’t work. For example, if you think your spouse is disposing of your assets without you knowing. In that case you might be better to speak to your solicitor first to take appropriate action.

But what about our finances?

Finances should always be resolved as amicably as possible and, most importantly, with the benefit of independent legal advice.

You may already have an idea of what you want to settle on, but always get sound advice first. In particular, never sign a legal agreement without speaking to your solicitor: you might find yourself locked into an agreement with implications that you didn’t appreciate.

“It’s far too early to involve solicitors!”

It’s never too early to seek legal advice.

At times like these, you need sensitive, confidential assistance. You can seek also help and support before you separate, to make sure you don’t make costly mistakes further down the line.

Above all...

Look after your own interests, and those of any children.

Your solicitor will be well placed to advise you on how best to do that.

For sensible, straightforward advice, contact familylaw@ledinghamchalmers.com

Emma Somerville

Emma Somerville is an senior associate in our family law team. She is based in our Aberdeen office.

Posted, 10 January 2017 by Emma Somerville
Categories: Family law | Private client | Residential property